There was a stretch of about two months where I was a voracious TED Talk watcher and listener. I started with the top ten most watched TED Talks, which soon became Top 20 (but I haven’t watched all twenty yet), and it became one of the most powerful 100 minutes I ever spent (“Sir Ken Robinson says schools kill creativity” still reverberates in my head as our two pre-school children grow up).
If you have a limited amount of time, I recommend watching the top five. They will challenge the way you think in a positive way and there is a 0% chance you will regret spending a hundred minutes this way.
Today, I want to talk to you about the talk that had the most profound impact on me.
Why do you work?
When I posed this question to my friends on Facebook, here’s a small sampling:
Until I watched that TED talk, I never asked myself why I worked.
I worked because that’s what I was supposed to do.
There was no why.
I don’t think about why I breathe air, I just do it. I don’t think about why I go to sleep, I just do it (and looooove it!). I don’t think about why I work, I just do it.
But there is a why and it’s was very important for me to understand it before I could truly put my life in balance.
Start With Why
The TED talk that had a profound (and I don’t use this word lightly) impact on me was a 2009 talk by Simon Sinek. Here’s the 18 minute video, please watch it if you’ve never seen it:
The talk is about businesses but it really applies to people too. Sinek talks about how the truly successful ones understand and start with their Why.
For me to fully come to terms with not working all the time, I have to first understand my Why.
I was running my life by leading with the What and the How. I never led with Why.
Why Do I Work?
On a mid-afternoon walk, I started to think about my Why.
Now, this isn’t a cheesy thing where I show you a photo of my cute little kids and my lovely wife and say I do it all for them. I do, but I always feel like those little disclosures are a little… manufactured. We all do it for our families. We all love our kids and our spouses and we go the extra mile for them.
That’s a given.
But that isn’t what I mean when I think about the Why… I want to go deeper. I need to understand, deep down past the warm and fuzzies, why I’m working.
First, I work for money. I want to and need to be paid. The bank wants money, stores want money, and photos of my kids might elicit an “awwww” but they don’t pay the bills. All things being equal, more is better and I want to be paid more.
I work for that feeling of accomplishment. The feeling that there was a difficult problem in front of me today and I beat it. I pride myself on being able to figure things out, to solve problems, and to work with what I have to accomplish a task. So being able to demonstrate that to myself on a daily basis is very fulfilling.
Finally, I enjoy learning. I think this stems from when I was a child and being rewarded when I knew something other people didn’t. My dad made me study verb tenses (present, past, past participle… I still don’t know what past participle means) from the back of a dictionary, a thick red hardcover Merriam-Webster dictionary, and it was empowering to know things my peers didn’t.
I always need to be learning and growing as a person or I feel stagnant. It’s like exercising. Once you get in the habit of exercising, stopping is very hard.
Being sedentary is difficult because you get a general sense of malaise that you can’t put your finger on.
When I thought about the top three reasons I work (money, accomplishment, and learning), I glossed over money but went into greater detail for the other two. I wanted to talk about money in greater detail now.
First, we all need money for obvious reasons – food, shelter, entertainment, etc.
We also need money because it represents something very important.
After many years of writing about money on Bargaineering, I learned that with money is never about actual dollars and cents.
Polls (Marist Institute for Public Opinion) have shown that at around $50,000 a year, people aren’t remarkably happier if they earn more. A 2010 Princeton University study put that number at $75,000. In other words, once you get past a certain amount, money stop making you happier at the same rate.
When it comes to money, it’s not the actual number on my paycheck or in my bank account, it’s what it represents.
It represents the world recognizing my value.
This is why you’ll have people who are content with their salary get angry when they discover their office mate, who may be an inferior employee, earns more. It’s not the money, it’s what it represents.
It’s why you might be happy with a 4% raise until you find out the next guy got a 5% raise. It’s not the money, it’s what it represents.
The actual money is important but the recognition of my value is also important.
That said, it’s dangerous to fall into the trap of equating my value to the world with how much I’ve earned.
There are plenty of financial wizard types who bring little to the world but are highly compensated because they found an exploitable weakness in the system.
There are plenty of hucksters and scammers who earn a lot of money peddling their systems and processes to people looking to get rich quick.
So while I don’t tie my self-worth to my net worth, money is certainly a small factor.
Autonomy, Mastery & Purpose
Daniel Pink, author of Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us, gave a talk at The Royal Society for the Encouragement of Arts that the RSA animated into this great video:
The relevant part starts at around 5 minutes, when he talks about three factors that lead to better performance and personal satisfaction: Autonomy, Mastery and Purpose.
What’s interesting is that they match up relatively well with the reasons I came up with for why I work.
I have Autonomy because I am my own boss.
Mastery is exactly my desire to constantly be learning and accomplishing things. Getting better at something is part of the learning process.
The last one, Purpose, matches up with money. I work for the money. Pink calls it the Profit Motive and when it gets unmoored from the Purpose Motive, bad things happen.
Now, that’s a little dramatic on an individual basis, since my goal in life isn’t to make money (whereas the primary goal of a business is to generate a profit) but the message is still clear. If my Purpose in my work is to simply make money, that’s not a good Purpose.
Good question. 🙂
What is my purpose in life and where does work fit in?
My purpose is to enjoy life, grow and support my awesome family, be a good teacher to our children, a good husband to my lovely wife, and a good son to my parents.
To use a car analogy, I feel as though I’m the engine and the money I earn from working is the gasoline. I need a certain amount to keep going but I don’t need 50 gallons if my tank can only hold 15.
What I need to do is short-circuit the part of my head that thinks I need to stockpile the extra 35 gallons in drums around the house (for those with clever intentions and a liberal interpretation of analogies, there are no piles of money around our house!).
How do I do this? Cars need more than gasoline to operate. If I want to be happy, if I want my family to be happy, if I want to fulfill my purpose, I need to make sure everything else is maintained – family, friends, health, and spirit… as well as work.
How I plan on doing that is for another day…
Now it’s your turn, why do you work?